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Latest Message: 11 months ago

Barney - Colombia : Hello family
guest_9197 : Can we listen to the talks at a later date and time. Can we access the recordings ?
James : Still learning platform. Blessings guys.
guest_5861 : Making a surrender for tonight. Need the grace of God that kills the obsession.
guest_2725 : If everything was recorded, will the recordings be made available?
guest_1667 : I have a laptop
guest_1470 : I have problem to see video
Israel R : Patrick call /WhatsApp+972585969756
guest_8468 : Sorry I meant next year - if for SIM next year it can be possible throughout to listen to the audio through the page without video or dial in without being able to disrupt that would be ideal. Thanks ?
Israel R : My personal zoom
Israel R : https://zoom.us/j/8032714799
guest_8468 : Thank you all. Of you can make it possible to just hear the audio (no video) from channel A that'd be great. I now have data limit warnings all over lol. Take care all!
Feike Netherlands : But the quality of streamingis sometimes very poor
Feike Netherlands : thanks a lot
Adolfo Cuba : God bless all one day at the time
Israel R : Love you all
Israel R : Terrible music
Israel R : Hi Patrick
Israel R : Daniel have my number and bruno has my email
guest_8468 : Thank you all!
guest_157 : Thanks for giving out your contact Claudia. Will be reaching out.
Israel R : Jason! I SEWED YOU VERY FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE
Daniel : thank you Denise!
Denise : Grateful for all of you. I couldn't stop listening...
Israel R : You guys saved me thousands dollar for tickets
guest_7763 : Claudia Gemany
guest_7763 : I ´m avalibele to sponser women. my number 00498137-6459926
Daniel : click the link
Daniel : if anyone wants to join now
Daniel : https://zoom.us/j/730100431
Israel R : Spasibo
guest_1914 : Thanks everyone! Fantastic work!
Israel R : I need be part of service next year
Israel R : I'm will still sober one day more
David from Mexico : Thanks You Home Bless you
guest_6466 : Please, Daniel share info on. Michaels brochures and where we can listen to what we've missed Cheers
Israel R : Brendon you are great
Israel R : Russians have to over from Skype to zoom
guest_6466 : Big shout for doing this! Great learning platform! Thanks to all Rita
Israel R : You are my heroes guy's
Emmanuel : This marathon is out of this world!
Indira B : Im grateful for this entire event and experience. The organization, the fellowship, the experience, strength and hope reminding me to not give up. Brandon I think you must be inmortal for being awake still.
Adolfo Cuba : Thanks a lot to all.
Israel R : People can leave also numbers
Daniel : click that link
Israel R : This is my number
Daniel : https://www.sa.org/store/product_info.php?cPath=26&products_id=98
Israel R : +972585969756
Israel R : They running away
guest_6466 : I see. Thank you fur answering Daniel. Which brochure was that. Please pass on the title Cheers
Daniel : nothing will help you more with that than taking more sponsees
Israel R : If its North Korea it will be denger
Emmanuel : I feel reluctant at times to take sponsees because I am not so good myself at consistency and working the steps every day, any thoughts?
Daniel : no he did it for saico
guest_6466 : I thought he did his own brochure The way he described them visually... I thought he devised something special
Daniel : we might do some Irish singing in the end
Daniel : sa.org
Daniel : you can get it on the online store in saico
guest_6466 : Or info where to get it Thanks Rita
guest_63 : I see, were the songs already done?
guest_6466 : By showing it on his camera or link to it
Daniel : this Is the only channel live no for the last hour
guest_63 : Are there new channel B & C Zoom meeting ID's? The ones posted on the site are not working. I want to hear the songs.
Daniel : share how?
guest_6466 : Rita
guest_6466 : Please, kindly ask him to share the brochure if he can
JIm D. (Massachusett : Thanks, Michael. I recall being reluctant to do service work beyond my home group--and then slowly coming out of my shell. Can you talk more about the contents of the brochure and your experience with getting over that hump?
Israel R : הנני
Emmanuel : Why is it that despite the blessings of putting in the work I an still so reluctant to do it
Daniel : yes
Ben : is this 5 minutes of meditation? or is it something else
Emmanuel : Are you getting my messages.
Israel R : How not to be old in step work? Not to bornout ?
Lion uk : I didnt umderstand what is the most important thing for continued recovery
guest_4709 JimB : Have u used the non SA approved book Back to Basics ?
Emmanuel : I find often that I can be in a really connected place. Connected with others and God. yet the next day the insanity reigns in and I take very unhealthy actions. Do you have any thoughts regarding this phenomemon?
guest_6466 : Would appreciate if he can share the brosure
guest_6466 : Very inspirational in its simplicity, the way this speaker describes the purpose of the steps. Thanks, Rita
guest_7763 : It sounds that you have a lot of experience with beeing powerless, so I have this to, and it is a gift to go trough this experiences and coming closer to myself and to god. Claudia
guest_7763 : Claudia
guest_7763 : Hello Michael! So good to listen to you. I identify trying to fix my recovery and trying to to the " right thing" to hold it for ever. I does not work. It is work in progress and progress not perfection. Thanks for your service!
guest_8961 : Good Morning and greeting from Virginia! Thanks for sharing your recovery with me
guest_6466 : Well I guess you could pass on question on the next speaker ? I appreciate it is an uncomfortable question as well as there was little time left...
guest_6466 : It's Rita again. Picking up on what Daniel said about having a more honest relationship with his partner. Has your perception of women changed in recovery? Can you see them more as equal human beings
Lion uk : Thanks For doing this Essay fellows fantastic!
guest_2053 : Thanks for doing this guy and girls
guest_1524 : Thanks to both.
guest_2053 : Have met girl
guest_1524 : Rita
Daniel : whats your name
guest_3827 : A question to Keith that was
guest_3827 : Yes, and in general in relation to true love and connection between two people, especially between men and women, who are so used to objectify the other gender
guest_3827 : Yrs. And in general dating people
Daniel : yes ben... acceptance will help you with that though 🙂
Daniel : theres many fellowship for non addicts in recovery
Ben : was the question about any length answered? i had to step off the talk for a phone call
Daniel : do you mean someone in recovery and someone not in recovery?
Daniel : non sexaholics can be in recovery though
guest_3827 : Keith do you believe in a loving union between a sexholic and a non sexaholic? It seems to me that unless the two people are connected to hp they would struggle to connect
Daniel : yes we hope to share the recordings
Daniel : we tried very hard to make it many more women
Daniel : 7 out of 24 was a big ratio compared to the actual fellowship
guest_3827 : I'm a woman.
guest_3827 : Thanks Daniel on answering about the few women speakers.. I guess "many" reflects the low ratio of women comparing to men in general in SA. In my timezone I didn't catch a woman speaker hence my question. I would appreciate if you give us info on where I can listen to the recordings.. Thumbs up for your hard work of running the SIM
Josip : Hi Keith, good to here you. Thanks for sharing.
Ben : hi, my question is: chapter 5 in the big book mentions the need to go to any lengths. what does any length mean for you?
guest_5720 : Hi Keith good to hear you, thanks for all your service Don O
Tomas M : I saw some shares of women. Fellowship is for everyone, but majority is men for now. My personal opinion.
Daniel : thoughout the event
Daniel : there have been many, 7 in channel A
guest_4550 : Hi there, why are there so few women speakers?
Tomas M : I am here too.
Tomas M : Thanks for your share. Disease is stupid.
keith : Thanks Cathal!!
Daniel : we hope so
guest_4550 : Hi there, would you be publishing the recordings somewhere for those who missed the inconvenient times. Thanks
Ben : yay!
Daniel : Cathal is here and starting now
guest_4550 : Just read the message s below which answer my question
guest_4550 : Is there a speaker right now? For some reason I get a black screen, with the name Daniel T and nothing else. Thanks for checking
Daniel : I mean 10 UTC!!!
Daniel : at 12 UTC
Daniel : hi guys, channel A is taking a break and will start again with the last two shares of the conference in just under an hour
Josip : I here you now
Josip : Ok
Josip : Can t here
guest_3874 : Thank you
Elaine P. : what is your purpose
Ben : some people come with just masturbation issues and then they learn other ways of acting out that they didnt even know about- thats my second question- how to deal with that
Ben : to keep SA safe for all members
Daniel : are we trying to control?
Ben : How do we prevent male and female members from acting out , whilst meeting at a mixed meeting?
Daniel : any more questions?
Dominik R : Thank you so much Birgit. Thanks for your honesty. Great share. My question: Can you say again the prayers you send to God during the day. They are easy and amazing.
Daniel : any further questions for Birgit on a change of heart
Sergey Almaty : Thank you LA for your service and heart. I wish I had heard you more.
Daniel : hey!
guest_7763 : Dear Birgit! Would you say, that change of heart is a prozess between you and your Higher Power. And it depends on your realtionship to your HP. Love Claudia
Zofia W. : Hello Daniel 😀
Daniel : (reminder guys means gals also for me lol)
Daniel : please do help me with questions for Birgit as she talks, thank you guys
Kristina Germany : hi birgt!
oleg vilnius : thx LA
Isaac : Not working (tech issues) Daniel, thanks anyway
Daniel : watch on this page
Daniel : no
Isaac : Is there a tel number to listen to Channel A?
brian s : thanks friend of roy uncondtional love of God
guest_7326 : Discovering the Principles is a great resource in calling us to deeper growth as a fellowship of SA and embodying the principles and traditions in unity, through recovery and loving service for and with each other.
Mitch : Nice! Thanks LA!
guest_7326 : How did the Steps help you grow in this spiritual awakening?
guest_7326 : What an encounter and experience of God's love! Even in the midst of the progression of your sexaholism...a time to come to awareness and quiet realization of your powerlessness with lust and reclaim what God always offered you, to go to any lengths...you gave your all and gave your whole self to God in the Fellowship and grew in union with fellowship through loving service. An encounter with a Radical Love that called you to be radical in God's love, putting everything on the table and God prov
Kristina Germany : Thank you LA
Virgis : Hello everyone
Dennis T : Any questions
Dennis T : Isnt it awesome to know someone and be known
Mr Bub : There's just something to the way he speaks...I feel more connected already!
Charlene (Belfast) : What was the book you read
Charlene (Belfast) : Great to be here thanks to all the speakers
Dennis T : Our Speaker is LA
Dennis T : Thank You
Luckyjoy : Thanks Dennis you're doing a wonderful job. Thanks everyone!
guest 9696 : greetings hello
guest 666 : hello
guest_7326 : Hitting the bottom helped you realize you had to find a way out. Realization of how deep the pain in betraying your wife and any other forms of lust and acting out increasing the pain 10x fold. Couldn't fill the void and then reaching out for help and HP provides a person to direct you to SA. What a grace! From self will gone riot to the willingness to go to any lengths to stop lusting and become sexually sober. What a Spiritual Awakening of the Power of HP in experience of your powerlessness. G
suzanne : Im here!
guest_7326 : How did you work with your sponsor when working the Steps?
Dennis T : any questions for Farzad
guest_7326 : I appreciate this experience of working the Steps in a simple, clear, concrete way in relation to sponsor and fellowship and all relationships and great witness that the Program works when you work it. Frank S. SoCal
Dennis T : One of the best descriptions I have heard on the steps, this is fantastic
Dennis T : Mona had difficulties getting on the line so Farzad was the back up sorry
Jimmy : I jumped on the video late but thought this was with Mona (maybe a female?) on “Life Before and Living in Recovery Now”. Will you clarify the speaker and if this is the right topic?
Dennis T : Farzad
Dennis T : questions for Faezad
Mitch : Hey Jason! Thanks for your wonderful support!
Mitch : Yes, I agree with Roy. Whenever i'm tempted to lust, I need to surrender to my higher power as soon as possible. The faster I surrender the more comfortable I am.
Dennis T : Sorry we missed this, I love that
guest_4229 : Roy K says greatest "sin" is not bringing your HP into your temptations and trying o do in own power. Do you agreee?
guest_4229 : Can you point to specific examples that help you trust your HP's seeing you thru the weak moments?
Dennis T : You mentioned self examination, can you talk more about that and what that looks like?
Jason c : No questions
Jason c : Lol
Daniel : any q Jason? (your friend in Israel)
Jason c : Hi mitch from your friend in australia
Dennis T : any questions?
Dennis T : add your questions as they come up
Daniel : (when I say guys its not gender specific)
Daniel : Questions here for Mitch please guys
guest_7237 : Thank you Neil for your ESH and everyone for service!
Dennis T : almost all my sponsees are in therapy, what my therapist gives me i cannot get in SA and what SA gives me, my therapist cant give me.
guest_7279 : Thank you!
guest_7279 : Or put in another way, would you sponsor a person in therapy?
guest_7279 : *did not feel comfortable
guest_7279 : What is your attitude towards therapy? My sponsor did not feel uncomfortable sponsoring me while I was going to therapy and that has been discouraging 🙁
guest_1122 : I have gone days where I was about to throw in the towel SA altogether but the fact that I had my daily renewal partner and I had to commit to the next 24 hours kept me coming back
Dennis T : please ask the question
guest_5481 : could you please ask the question from guest 5481 paraphrase if necessary i.e remove the reference to Harvey
guest_7279 : Thanks for answering. This helps me to be more broad with my shares snd program
Dennis T : questions kep them coming
guest_7279 : What does it mean when they ask "have you done anything in the last 24 hours that you are ashamed of"? What do you include in that shame?
guest_7237 : My question is how do you know if you really have a healthy attraction to someone or if it is lust?
guest_5481 : Please comment on the following from an ESSAY article written by Harvey, "Those people who wonder why the repeatedly relapse might consider that they have never really gotten sober. Yes, they stopped masturbating to orgasm BUT nothing else change. Some continued stimulating themselves but not to orgasm. Others continued watching internet pornography and others live in sexual fantasy while letting themselves become aroused. If this is not “sex with self” then what do we call it?" So to me thi
guest_5481 : For me watching porn, or viewing nonporn material pornographically is for me acting out see following excerpt from Essay by Harvey
volvi a : i want to ask my wife witch is in sanon wont that if i act out to tell hear but i do not want to tell her what is the right thing to do?
Dennis T : If you have questions as we go along post them here and they will asked in the end of his share
Dennis T : Otherwise reach out to SAICO for the womans
Dennis T : you can text me your number if you feel safe and i can send it to her 907-885-5378 Dennis T in Alaska
Deviana Cres : Thank you!
guest_8168 : Blessings of surrender today friends!
Tzvi S : hey SZ!
Solomon Z from NYC : Wow, thanks for sharing that about men's attire
volvi a : can i have the number from the speaker?
volvi a : can i have the number from richards?
Deviana Cres : How about the side of the woman... I mean what should she prepare for (or is there she should prepare for) knowing that she'll be attending a male-dominated meeting?
volvi a : after making the steps one time its good to do it another time with a oder sponser?
guest_9333 : Women in meetings is probably the same thing for gay guys in the meetings.
guest_9333 : Can you describe some of what you noticed when you Spiritually Awakened? IE - what is being awake mean to you?
guest_9333 : Thanks for your talk Susie
guest_1139 : Do you encourage international sponsees who have a local meetings with more men to attend local meetings. How can men make the meetings more comfortable for women to attend?
Tzvi S : +1 Indira!
Indira B : 🙁 I had to ask! But thank you so much!
Indira B : Mm accepting any new sponsees? 🙂
Tzvi S : Questions for Susie, post them here please
volvi a : vary nice speeking tank you
Tzvi S : Hey Jeff!
guest_9333 : Hi Tzvi! Jeff from Chicago here1
Tzvi S : sorry quest_2584 we were out of time
guest_2584 : My sponsee relapses, what do I say? " you can stubble over this or use it as a step ing stone to move up. Your choice"
guest_415 : Good point, thanks for sharing that outlook guest-8197
guest_8197 : Just a comment. If I had to get a year of sobriety before sponsoring someone I don't think I would have made it my first year. Having the responsibility of a sponsee and having to meet with that sponcee and share with him the same hope and Recovery that I had been given is what kept me sober that first year.
Deviana Cres : Hi! I have another question! What is the difference in purposes/objectives/activities of the sponsor and the accountability partner? Sometimes I get them mixed up. Hehehe.
guest_415 : How long should you be sober to become a sponsor??
Deviana Cres : Thank you so much! 🙂
Anon : Even though your sponsor is gay, do you ever feel lust towards him?
Deviana Cres : [QUESTION FOR ILONA] Hi Ilona! i love your talk, i really want to sponsor people someday. I have a question regarding the sex difference between the sponsor and sponsee. I also read it in the White Book, yes, but didn't give an explanation. Can you share your view on this?
guest_7237 : I am looking for a sponsor. What should I be looking for?
guest_7237 : Hi Ilona
Anon : Can you tell me about what you do with a brand newcomer and starting out
Tzvi S : any questions?
Mark D. : I'm coming from the point of a sponsee. I'm not good at calling him or anyone else (mainly based on my own insecurities), and I feel like I'm failing him. How can I break out of this?
Tzvi S : Any questions for Ilona please post em here
Dennis T : Please direct your questions for ILona here
Dennis T : Glad she made it
Dennis T : whew
guest_7237 : Thanks so much for your ESH Bill
Jason c : Thanks bill
guest_3214 : im here. Can’t connect. Meeting id
guest_3214 : I’m here but can’t connect. Ilona
CanadianJames : Thank you Bill!
guest_7237 : Thanks, Jason
Jason c : Yes its recorded
guest_7237 : Hi. Is this recorded? I didn't hear the whole thing but what I did hear was awesome!!
Tracy M : Your honesty is incredible
Jason c : How do we contact him please
Jason c : Is bill on whatts app ??
Dennis T : Any other questions for Bill?
Shemaryahu : Do things out of love rather than fear
Dennis T : Please clarify
Dennis T : Lover actions??
Shemaryahu : Can you please elaborate on lover actions, and how can I practice this?
Dennis T : great question
CanadianJames : Can you share about some of proven actions that works for you to 'back away from the Animal(fear)?
CanadianJames : Hi, thanks so much!
Dennis T : This is your chance to ask any question about recovery
Tracy M : Thank you Bill. Your experience strength and hope are very encouraging
Dennis T : maybe some questions around the earlier comments?
Dennis T : questions for Bill?
Jason c : Great idea about the adding shame inventory to approved literature thanks bill
guest_5874 : Lust is an escape from fear and resentments. It's the causes and conditions like it says in the big book by step 4.
Dennis T : I understand the way you are saying that
Dennis T : 🙂
guest_2979 : Sorry but I think lust is the problem.
Dennis T : Lust is not the problem, is it the solution to my problem. Seperation from my HP by my character defects
guest_2979 : I’ve always looked at as I used acting out as a way to deal with my lust. Lust is my problem. Fear is at the root of all my lust and therefore my resentments. It’s the evil and corroding thread woven through the fabric of my existence. Are you saying lust is not your problem?
Dennis T : google translate?
guest_6390 : lust seemed to fill the hole of neglect
guest_6173 : Cómo puedo traducir la conversación en español?
Tracy M : Thank you for your share. It is sure to help me and my sponsees
Bilal : Have not acted out with another person since 2010, but I continue to struggle to gain sobriety from porn, why is this piece so difficult
Simeon Y : Has the weekly accountability helped you grow in the area of self-awareness? This is one of my biggest struggles
Dennis T : great question
guest_6390 : how does resentmtnt contribute to lust
Jason c : Great share carl from jason in australia
Dennis T : questions please
Dennis T : additional questions?
guest_7315 : definition of shame inventory I think?
guest_4940 : What is the 2nd question again?
Amjed B : I'm on the SIM 2019 WhatsApp Group if anyone wants connect and contribute to my sobriety 😉
guest_7315 : one of my favorite CD's is called Shameless: Seeing yourself as God sees you....it has been so helpful...I know God loves me and I am a beloved child of God, and yet at times I wear aspects of shame! I like how the speaker like in the CD makes a distinction between shame and guilt, guilt based on something we have done, but shame colors who we are, and not just of what we have done but what others have done to us!
guest_7315 : also how would I find a definition of a shame inventory, is it intrinsic to step 4?
guest_7315 : yes I am wondering if a shame inventory would be good for me when I get to step 4, I am working on step 1? of course I will ask my Higher Power!
Dennis T : Questions for Carl?
Dennis T : Thank you
guest_7315 : I realized that in the end it colored the way I viewed myself in front of women I have had a romantic interest in, and God is still healing me of it today at 42 years old
guest_7315 : what is interesting for me is an event that happened to me at 13 I was humiliated by someone in front of a girl I liked
Dennis T : EMBRACE: God, I offer to You, my soul. Fill it with Your Love that I will not want, that I will not need anything or anyone to fill up what is lacking in me. I ask You, my Loving God, to connect with me and make me whole. In Your Loving Arms, all my needs are met. Send me into this day as Your servant that I may do Your Will today and that I may help my fellows today rather than obsess about my loneliness, fears, resentments, guilt, unworthiness, or failures. {listen in silence for God’s rep
Dennis T : Amjed's Prayers...
Bart : Thank you for sharing Amjed. For me the miracle is that we are from the others part of world, but we have the same solutions and we can recover together. Thanks God for all of you guys.
guest_9924 : Can he give us that prayer in writing?
chani nj : that prayer nearly brought me to tears
Daniel R : Thanks so much for answering my question. I really appreciate the analogy of control versus surrender and the voice of self versus the voice of God. It is SO hard for me to slow down and invite God into the situation and breathe.
guest_1933 : Doesn't mean i could do whatever i want..
guest_1933 : I see myself like a diabetic. When im normal i have the balance ti take the correct actions that are appropriate for my condition.
Chesky S : Thank you so much i loved every minute especially the surrender of the cellphone before the bathroom that struck a chord
guest_1933 : In answer to guest_1191
George F : This disease is like being on an elevator that only goes down. The point where I push the button, stop the elevator and get out is my "bottom". Then I take the Steps back up.
Cathal In Ireland : Hi Amjed, Great to hear you tonight. I can really identify with you, so many things. Hope you make it to Ireland some day...Always welcome here! Cathal
guest_1191 : isnt it rue if we are working a good program we should be able to be like normal ppl
guest_8760 : How did you figure that netflix and facebook are your problems? How long did it take you?
guest_1191 : With all due respect according to what you saying we should live in a cave so we don’t get hit by lust
Jonathan L. : Thank you so much, unfortunately i have to go in to work. Will listen in during my break. Take care
Daniel R : Can you talk more about the difference b/w taking an action of powerlessness as a way to control lust versus as an act of surrender? It's hard for me to see the difference.
Jonathan L. : I agree. I think of my addiction as in remission. I know if i dont take care of myself, it can come back in full force. I love that analogy!
Tracy M : Thanks for your shares. I missed your intro
Jonathan L. : Dennis, my question is posted below...thanks
Friend from London : His message is so clear I can’t think of any questions
Hamza : Yes. Do yo have to hit rock bottom in order to finally make a decision to follow recovery ?
Dennis T : Any Questions for Amjed Please!
Jonathan L. : I've been sober since i joined SA. I dont have the experience of losing my sobriety. What i do when im disturbed works for me so i dont call people. I do call when something is too strong
Friend from London : One of the best lines I ever heard is, if I do the work is my business, if I stay sober is God’s business
Friend from London : I’m still powerless over acting out, I have zero control over it, but I can do the actions.
Jonathan L. : Would u still call people if u didnt lose your sobriety?
Jonathan L. : I am powerless over lust. It comes in my mind either from outside or inside influences. I am NOT powerless over acting out. I was, but now i have a choice. Before, i didnt. Now i can call people and use my HP.
Nick : This is giving me shiver, thank you very much!
Dennis T : Glad your here 🙂
Friend from London : I recognize that epiphany;-)
Hamza : Grateful to be here among this fellowship
Charlene (Belfast) : Great to be here and listening to the speakers
Dennis T : Glad your here
Charlene (Belfast) : Great to be here and listening the speakers
Dennis T : Questions for Amjed?
Friend from London : i always assumed that your newfound sobriety was a result of you getting to know me:-)
Friend from London : I haven’t heard that voice for too long.
Aaron, ID : Did you struggle to continue to gain traction in recovery after the high of giving your step one to your sponsor? How did you power through it?
Dennis T : questions ?
Nick : How do you deal with temptations when you have some?
Nick : How do you deal with temptations when you have some?
guest_8564 : How does one know if they are a real sexaholic
David from Mexico : Thank you 🙂
Dennis T : questions please?
David from Mexico : Have you been afraid of stop controlling situations and let them in the hands of your higher power? If so, How have you managed to deal with this?
Benji : Do you go through days where you feel you are fine and just don't need a connection with a higher power that day? What do you do on days like that?
Thad H : What are ways you connect with your spouse daily?
David from Mexico : How do you know what your higher power wants you to do?
Mark D. : How do I make the real connection when I feel so isolated? I struggle with true intimacy, because I'm afraid to open up and be vulnerable.
Dennis T : any step work questions?
guest_1906 : Were you able to find the love that you were searching for? If so, how did you come to realize it in your life?
Daniel : Questions for Caroline please
Dennis T : Thank you for the questions, please keep them coming folks
guest_4255 : When was the last time you thought of your qualifier? What do you do when that happens?
guest_4255 : Can you describe your program on a daily basis today, to connect with God.
Dennis T : You can post any questions for Caroline here. I will ask her in the end
guest_3633 : Joel from Canada. Thank you Jason! Less distractions, quiet time to meditate, and check in with my sponsor. Hope you all have a good day.
guest_5215 : I surrender!
guest_4255 : Thanks
guest_7871 : Thank you Jason. From Dovi
Elaine P. : love you , Jason
guest_3681 : Gerry from Canada, Jason like you, my siblings and I lived through emotional, physical and some sexual abuse in Foster homes, to what degree did those years effect you in terms of your Sex addiction.
David from Mexico : Thank you 🙂
Daniel : lippy we will take this private later as if im doing nothing lol
guest_3681 : Gerry from Canada, Jason,
guest_3681 : Gerry from Canada:
Lipi : Daniel stop lounging around like a lazy bugger
guest_3633 : Joel from Canada. I have trouble knowing what my Higher Power's will is for me. I sometimes just know but other times I just feel lost. How do you know you are hearing His will for you? Thanks so much!
SAtrudger : Top o' the mornin to you Jason! I believe it's in the White Book that said this: How blessed we are that we have a disease that requires we continuously seek God in our lives inorder to get recovery. "Ah blindest ... weakest I am thou whom thou seekest" Do you think we would continue to seek our higher power if we didn't have this disease?
Avigdor : Could you share your daily routine that’ you need to stay sober
Dennis T : Can you tell us how working the steps specifically has improved your spiritual awakening and connection with God
Avigdor : Hey Jason
Kerenza R : I'm from Michigan
Ben K : yeah my question is: Jason, how could I get some of your vital spiritual experience?
Tomas M : Grateful for you share Jason. I don't have a tie yet.
Ben K : Jason you cry baby!!!!
Daniel : thanks, any more questions?
Kerenza R : Jason, can you explain how you stopped being afraid of God after hearing he was going to punish you for so long?
guest_2483 : Jason, when you start feeling lust, can you describe what "surrendering" feels like to you?
guest_5215 : Lay off them samiches
guest_5215 : Lay off them samiches
Daniel : Please send questions for Jason
Daniel : Thanks everyone and sorry for not getting to the questions 🙁
Dennis T : So True Trudger
Ron G : Thx so much H. I have no idea how to make amends to my ex-wife. I will leave it to my HP.
SAtrudger : Harvey is so right about the SAnon never ever being able to understand what we struggle with. Never.
Israel R : How we can keep young and new in the program?
Israel R : Harvey's how can i keep myself young in the program?
Israel R : Brendon! Did you had a bard last year?
Dennis T : he just answered my question
Jeff in Maine : Preach it Harvey!
Jeff in Maine : Should those of us who are married and engaging in healthy sex with our wives expose that intimacy to people outside the relationship? (Rhetorical -- my answer is no)
volvi a : tank you so strong
guest_5225 : a lust attraction?
guest_5225 : Hi Harvey. How do you know the difference between if you really like someone or is it a li
Jason c : Question , the longer sober i get im nearly 7 years sexually sober , im finding im more sensitive to lust i cant be around women much as i was in early recovery any comments btw you are doing a fantastic job jason in australia
Daniel : yes once bureaucracy is dealt with
Richard D : Have you experience of using meditation to avoid lust hits and avoid acting out? I did my first year crazy ttimes counting my breath and counting my steps. Ps Englisg sober in Scotland
guest_5833 : Will there be a recording of the speakers for a later viewing?
Daniel : the streaming is dependent on your connection, Harveys connection is not perfect
guest_5833 : Please, improve the streaming if you can. Thank you for putting this convention!!! Great speakers
guest_3549 : I have a question for Harvey: do you have any tips for not resenting the culture that has negatively influenced my black / white thinking about life and religion?
Zishe M. - Monsey : We are not a glum lot...
Ben K : yeah Daniel is sephardi...
Jeff in Maine : "Asking only for the knowledge of God's will for me and the power to carry it out" was the kicker for me....
WojtekPoznan : Connection is broken, I can hear only each second word 🙁
Ben K : question: what about vision work? do you have experience about that Harvey?
SAtrudger : Is this a correct way to think about the 1st and 2nd thought: - the 1st thought is the Temptation and the if I take it to the 2nd thought I've allowed it to become Lust.
Ben K : give love not zumba!!!!
Simon E : Great to hear you again Harvey! ? Always remember you saying "when I'm thinking , I'm in enemy territory!" Thanks for all the truth! ?
Daniel : thanks all for the love - please send questions also for later 🙂
guest_1440 : I gave up earlier because of the poor streaming....but thought I'd come back and try to watch Harvey....
Laurens111 : I am too
guest_1440 : Yes, I am as well
Melissa M in Georgia : I’m afraid the stream is a bit unstable. Is anyone else missing Harvey’s words every few seconds?
Ben K : I love you Harvey!!!!
Ross B : You don't need a big crowd Harvey. 😉
Ron G : I'm here Harvey. Great to see and hear you again.
Melissa M in Georgia : Well, I’m here!
Daniel : All questions for Harvey here please
guest_415 : Wow I am so thankful for being able to listen to this man. You are an awesome person.
Kerenza R : Thank you so much for your share
guest_8760 : hòw to deal with temptation?
ParaicW : Hi Ray great share. Can you talk about how you dealt with the resentments that kept coming back
Fred M : How do you differentiate between freedom from lust vs freedom from lasting out?
guest_733 : Thank you! Great speaker!!!
guest_733 : How do you differentiate between self pity and living from the position of a victim as it were VS being able to. Be honest and alert
guest_8760 : Could you elaborate more on the toolkit: hòw to deal with temptation
Ross B : Thank you.
guest_9795 : Hi Ray great share. how did you deal with the resentments that kept coming back
Pete : Ray, you said everything gets better in sobriety. But I'm afraid of the "restless, irritable, and discontent" feelings that seem to increase as I get more sobriety. Is there a point where I can expect to feel safer from relapse?
Dennis T : any last questions
guest_9523 : How do you deal with lust dreams with or without physical relief? Do you reset your date?
Pete : Ray, thank you for sharing experince, strength, and hope!
guest_733 : P. S. He talked about trauma, did he consider ACA and /or could one work the two programs. For me sex addiction is. A secondary addiction
guest_83 : Very true, I find a difference while sharing with my girlfriend, and sharing with sa members, both are important but sharing with member is vital
guest_733 : Great speaker. Could he talk about SA vs ACA adult children of alcoholics in relation to the abuse /abandonment he talked about. Thanks
guest_9523 : How do you keep from becoming complacent and resting on your laurels?
guest_9523 : Great recovery in this share ! TY
Josip : Thanks
Daniel : were both funny men Jason
Dennis T : great question he said 30 minutes a day, I too wondered what that looked like.
Kerenza R : Ray mentioned he has studied a lot of ways to pray and meditate-- would he be willing to list a few?
Dennis T : Wow a wealth of wisdon
Dennis T : Please post questions for Ray here
Melissa M in Georgia : Thank you again, Niall!
Jason c : Your a funny man daniel lol
Elaine P. : Thanks , Niall
guest_3124 : Really special shareGod bless you.
Thad H : Thank you for your share
Dennis T : but she is the one
Dennis T : working the program around that?
Daniel : final questions for Niall
Dennis T : What about a single guy that is engaged to be married in the future when he comes into SA?
Dominik R : Thank you so much Niall! Thanks for your honesty.
guest_8479 : hi
Dennis T : can you share about working with sponsees that want to start dating but as they start dating the sponsor can see that they start using lust, if we are to get rid of all hidden lust bottles and as a sponsor I can see that is another lust bottle in their life, I can only ask questions so that they can see that as well, would you ever tell a sponsee to leave a girlfriend?
brian s : 20 yrs into saand 25 years into mRriage justnow able to openly discuss lust with my spouse. thanks for shining light on your trUma
Dominik R : Thanks for your answer. Doing step 7 on self-hate - how practically do you do that?
Richard D : Now the question at what point do you tell the lady about SA sobriety?
Richard D : I dated a lady and things were going well. As we were inimate physically and I refused to do any more than hug and peck I told her I was celebate chaste. The relationship built I told her I had a history of mental illhealth AA OA membership but not yet SA. However she researched me on the web and discovered my SA membership I was honest without being graphic. I liked the lady but she split from me.
Daniel : any more q?
guest_5865 : Thanks a lot Niall we are happy joy and free.
Richard D : Hi Niall good to see and hear you.
Qba_Gdansk : How old are you?
guest_8468 : Hi Niall! thank you so much for your share, it touches my deeply. And I can identifie with a lot. It is encouring to listen to you. Thank you for your honestey. Thanks for doing your work . So great to listen to you Claudia
Daniel : any more q?
Daniel : I sent that message to Niall solomon
Solomon Z from NYC : Hi Niall, would I be able to contact you outside of SIM? My email is sabuffalogrove@gmail.com. I have been in SA since June 2017, I'm sober since September 30th 2018 and I'm dating as well
Dominik R : Hi Nail, thanks for sharing. Could you please expand a little on that self-hatred during the dating process when women didn't get back or blocked the contact etc. as I experience the same stuff. Thank you so much. Dominik
Melissa M in Georgia : Would you recommend working all 12 steps before dating? I’m pretty new to the fellowship, for context. Thanks for your share, Niall
Pat W : Thanks
Daniel : questions here for Niall on sober dating please
Daniel : its linked a few places on this page
Daniel : The schedule is on this page, just click where t says schedule
Pat W : All good ?
Jason c : Dont know
Pat W : Hi Jason, I havent read the speaker schedule. Who is the speaker?
Jason c : Good morning world
Qba_Gdansk : I think we have same sponsor. Mine tell me the same thing: 2 years! 😀
Pat W : Hi everybody great to be here. Thanks for your service.
Zofia : Thank you all for being there. It was a pleasure for me to read your comments now and an honour to be a speaker.
guest_2980 : Thanks Zofia, it was good to listen to you
guest_9273 : Thanks
Joasia : Thank you!
Rachel : Thank you!!!
Dominik R : Thank you so much Zovia for sharing.
guest_6710 : Thanks
Daniel : try reloading
guest_436 : It’s back
Rachel : Guest 3988
guest_436 : Oops. Lost connection
Joasia : I experience that being grateful is a good remedy for negativity and anger. Do you have any specific "tool" for your fears?
Daniel : guys feel free to change your name from guest so we can identify you easier when asking
brian s : before i recohnize that it is false evidenceappearing real
guest_3988 : How did you go from fearing to trust your Higher Power? It seems that you really love him now.
brian s : i usually am into the negatitvity
guest_6462 : Wonderful share!
guest_436 : Thank you so much for your share, Zofia!
Daniel : do you mean physical signal Brian?
brian s : what signal do you get that a fear is present?
kristina : I identify with the fear and thoughts in my head about "What do they think about me, what do I wear, what could happen, am I safe ?" Thanks for that Zofia.
Jarred : How does she make daily connection with her higher power?
guest_7054 : Wow so great acceptance and love yourself even if you have fear thank you very much
Daniel : any other questions?
guest_8468 : Claudia from munich
guest_8468 : Hi Sofia! Nice to see you and hear you!
Dennis T : Does she say any specific fear prayers when she is experiencing fear?
Daniel : questions about fear?
guest_1215 : Great to be here. Recovery is a great place to be.
guest_1215 : Great to be here. Recovery is a great place to be.
Daniel : thanks kristina
Daniel : I mean for Zofia lol
Daniel : please do send questions for Kristina if anyone has any, and feel free to edit the guest number in the name so we have a name to the question!
kristina : wonderful share!
guest_9712 : maybe try Restarting your Modem
Daniel : are you on cell or wifi? try to get closer or a stronger signal for either
guest_8744 : internet is intermittent. any advice?
Daniel : What interference?
guest_8744 : Hi I am having a lot of interference. Not sure if its from my provider. Can anyone advise
Daniel : Please put your questions for Zofia here
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